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ConsentLab

An experiential space to practise asking for what you want, expressing your limits, and making agreements, in a playful and authentic way.
ConsentLab

What is a ConsentLab?

ConsentLab is an experiential play/workshop to practise the dynamics taught Somatic Consent.  The evening starts with an introduction and consent games, which leads into the Lab itself, a guided circle structure where people make requests based on consent and agreements.

What you will learn:

  • Communication tools
  • Consent skills
  • Asking for what you want
  • Making clear requests
  • Being seen in your desire
  • Creating agreements
  • Tuning into your authentic ‘yes’ and ‘no’
  • Speaking up for your limits and boundaries

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What happens in a ConsentLab?

The introduction is a playful and fun way to get to know each other. In preparation for the Lab, participants learn about consent and communication tools for expressing limits and desires.

In the Lab itself, we sit in a circle and practice making real requests. This anchors an understanding of the power of desire and value of limits when making agreements. It is important that everyone takes responsibility for themselves, both in making a request and responding to a request.

For example, if you would like to receive a back massage for 10 minutes, you express your desire and make a request to a person of your choice: “will you massage my back for 10 minutes?” If the other person is willing to do so, you both go to the side of the circle and carry out the agreement, not more than that, but maybe less if one of you chooses to. After the agreed time is over, you both come back to the circle and continue to make or receive requests.

We complete the workshop with a closing circle for people to reflect on the experience and talk about what they discovered about themselves.

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Who is the ConsentLab for?

This workshop is for anyone who is interested in learning more about themselves and improving the quality of their communication in relationships – personal or professional, with lovers, friends, parents, children or colleagues. No prior experience is necessary. And all gender and sexual orientations are welcome. 

This is a safe and confidential sex-positive space. There can be nudity, sensual and sexual dynamics in the room during the Lab. Nobody has to participate in anything but you do have to be ok with others following their own desires in a consensual way.
 For those who choose to participate and respond positively to a request, they will be able to do so from an empowered place.


You can come to the ConsentLab to practise making requests, to practise saying ‘no’, or simply to have fun and connect with new people. Some people may come to the event to practise saying ‘no’ to every request, and some may come to practise receiving a ‘no’. Some people just come to participate by observation.

But most importantly, you come to be you and to learn that you get to choose how, when and where you engage – maybe even not at all.

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“It’s good to want” - ConsentLab was a great way to practice feeling into my desires, no matter how big or small, and feel the aliveness of wanting, to give my desires space and voice. Then shifting into the slightly more edgy and vulnerable territory of making requests (and the possibility of getting a ‘no’ - rejection arrrgh!), it’s great to be reminded that my desires are valid, regardless of whether I get what I want or not. These are important life skills and it’s super useful to practice in a held (and playful!) workshop environment.
Klara Ariss
Klara Ariss
The ConsentLab was my first experience with Somatic Consent. I had no idea what to expect and I was feeling both nervous and excited. Matt made the space feel so open, safe, and comfortable. I loved that he allowed people the choice to be present without the need to participate, for some reason that made me feel so relaxed. I particularly enjoyed that it wasn't all theory, instead, there was always a fun exercise to put the concepts into practice. I really enjoyed the workshop. The two hours passed by so quickly and I left feeling more aware and conscious of my boundaries and limits. Feeling open to say no and more respectful of others as well. I highly recommend it 🙂 Thank you!
Ivonne Sanchez
Ivonne Sanchez
Hello Matt, I was in your consent lab workshop at the Stockholm Tantra Festival. And I wanted to share with you how much I liked it. Starting tantra has been a big desire in me for years. And there were so many unkown obstacles/resistances in me that I kept prosponing it. Today I found an answer to that in your consent workshop and that is about saying NO. I unlearned saying NO and it is affecting my YES all the time. So I thank you from the bottom of my heart for your teaching.
Annaluz Uittenbroek
Annaluz Uittenbroek
"Understanding consent in your own body as a felt experience is so important. Most of the information about consent is based on thinking and can be very dry and does not take the wisdom of your body into account. Try this out - it's fun and playful. You get to learn so much about yourself through the experiential exercises. You learn to ask and voice your needs as well as understand your own capacity to fulfill another's request. You get to feel less awkward around bringing up the topic of consent as well as your boundaries - this becomes part of your playfulness."
Ren Chang
The ConsentLab is definetely exciting, blood pumping and heart beats because who knows what will happen in this safe space connected with other people in the next minutes?! All emotions are welcome, it helped me through some rough waters already and I am just only starting to understand/feel and use what somatic consent is about. I am going with the flow, and there is a lot of flowing thanks to good teaching!
Erika Verhaegen
Erika Verhaegen
It’s a really insightful, eye-opening, safe and easy-to-join/welcoming workshop, and I totally recommend attending it multiple times or regularly to get more into the topic. Personally, I started to understand more about my relationship with my "yes" and my "no" after attening around 3 ConsentLabs.   At this year's ConsentLabs, that there's always been some new information/theory or some information discussed from a slightly new perspective, which has also been really good and valuable when attending the labs more than a couple of times.   It really helps that ConsentLab is such a dynamic and active workshop, meaning that there are lots of short exercises to train the skills in practice. For me, it’s one of the best parts of ConsentLab
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